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Probably a very unpopular opinion. Don't mind me. :( 

There used to be a time where I would talk to/about a person as they/them without knowing their gender. Now I'm afraid to talk to/about people at all in fear of violating some kind of pronoun misunderstanding and being called out for it. Can I even say people or is that wrong? Not everyone is out to hurt others feelings, sometimes I really just don't know and I certainly don't mean to offend anyone. Language is hard enough! :(

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re: Probably a very unpopular opinion. Don't mind me. :( 

@talon well, it's always okay to use they/them if you don't know the pronoun but for online interactions it's always better to check since most people have pronouns in their bio :) also yes people is okay and there's nothing wrong with asking don't worry

re: Probably a very unpopular opinion. Don't mind me. :( 

@dragon I do try but sometimes I get snapped at quite aggressively. Like this morning. It's just disheartening and at that point I dunno what to do than to just say sorry and leave. I'm not trying to disrespect anyone by not knowing and would have happily stood corrected. But don't need to scream at me for that... There's not always a profile for me to look at either especially in things like IRC. oh well.

re: Probably a very unpopular opinion. Don't mind me. :( 

@talon oh sorry I didn't know that was in reference to something that happened ^^' either way the best thing to do is always to apologize and move on and make sure to ask

re: Probably a very unpopular opinion. Don't mind me. :( 

@talon 💙 it's hard. I often try to avoiding pronouning at all. Got snapped at by a third person for a slipup when my closest friend had just changed in-use pronouns and just .. shut down for a long time about ever referring to anyone. A lot of sentences that would have required a pronoun just won't come out of me anymore.

re: Probably a very unpopular opinion. Don't mind me. :( 

@feonixrift I already try but that leads to a lot of awkward wording and sometimes I just can't figure out how to say what I want to say. Sooo I end up just not saying it. I know the internet causes a lot of trouble for those people but not everyone is out to harm. Meh...

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